Shamrock and Roll

Checking in and update

2007-02-27T22:02:27Z

I hope this isn't too weird, but I spent a lot of time keeping up with many of you on your wedding plans until mine fell through, so for those of you who might remember me, I thought I would come to first, congratulate those of you who are now married and second to give an update on me!

The ex and I are NOT back together, and there is no chance that we ever will be. It was hard to deal with at first, but now I realize that it is so much for the better and I have not been happier in a long time! I am now dating someone new-- he is a wonderful guy that is everything Matt was not for me. Ironically, he is the brother of one of my good friends (she was going to be one of my bridesmaids!!)
Matt has also moved on-- in fact it is my understanding that he was seeing this new girl within the month of our breakup.

At any rate, a few good things came out of all of it for me-- I met Mike who I'm insanely in love with... and since I'm not getting married on St. Patrick's Day anymore, I'm using the money that I would have spent on my dress and taking myself on a cruise to the Caribbean during that time! Woohoo!!

Well, I will leave it at that, I know this is not what this community is for. But I have to say, I miss getting to share all the wedding excitement with you guys!

Again, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

My heart hurts

2006-11-09T15:01:35Z

I just don't know what to do with myself. He said he's just not happy and he doesn't think it's fair for either of us to stay in the relationship. Everything I look at, and ever thought that I have, every song I hear and everything I see on TV reminds me of him. He says he still loves me, but he needs to be happy. I've never felt so bad in my entire life. I haven't eaten in 3 days and I've lost 5 pounds. I try to eat but I gag. He says to give it a few weeks, and I told him that I just want to be with him, we don't HAVE to get married. We were so happy and I don't know what happened. I feel like 1/2 of a person, and I feel like the other half of me is dead. I keep trying to tell myself that I will start to feel better, but my whole life is shattered. I know he is having a hard time too, and I asked him if he could just try to work it out-- to see a counselor with me or something, but he says he just doesn't have it in him, and that he has felt this way for so long and the scars are so deep that he doesn't know what to do. I've basically cried non-stop for the past 3 days, and I don't know how much more I have to give. I am so sad, and I still have to see him 2 days a week because we have class together. When I left him yesterday he said that "it's far from over in his book" but I don't know what that is supposed to mean. I just sent out the save the dates and now we have to write a letter to everyone and I don't know if I can handle it. It's just so hard and I don't feel like it's ever going to get better.

Thanks so much for all of your wedding advice and help, I wish it would have come to good use for me.

The count...

2006-09-17T16:25:25Z

Just a little note... today is our 3 year anniversary AND it is also the 6 month mark until our wedding!! **bounce bounce bounce**

bridetobe_317 @ 2006-08-01T15:58:00

2006-08-01T20:11:09Z

Today is my birthday, and I haven't felt this alone in a long time. Perhaps I am being selfish and unforgiving-- a total brat, if you will-- but I'm feeling quite unappreciated and insignificant at the moment. Matt stayed at work super long today. When he eventually did pull himself away from his ever-so-important job, he called me to let me know he was on his way, but that he had a meeting for work in a few hours and would have to go back. I cried. He felt bad. I felt bad. I cried some more.
My sister had surgery this morning. She had her gall bladder taken out. She's all right and she's even being discharged today, but of course and understandably my parents are much more concerned about her wellfare than my birthday-- I mean I've already had 23 of them, and this is Kari's first surgery. When my parents called me to let me know that the surgery went well, we almost hung up before my mom remembered and yelled "oh hey! Happy Birthday!," which made my dad remember that he forgot to do the same when I talked to him, so in the background I heard him yelling it, too. Other than from my sister and my parents, I haven't received one card or phone call. Oh, I have gotten well-wishes on facebook and myspace from friends that would have otherwise forgotten, except for the little reminder as soon as they logged on. I am greatful for their acknowledgement, don't get me wrong. I know I'm being a brat, but I'm allowed to. It's my birthday.

Being bored

2006-06-01T00:24:02Z

Choose a band / artist and answer ONLY in titles of their songs:

1. Choose a band/Artist: Live

2. Are you male or female: Voodoo Lady, She

3. Describe yourself: Heropsychodreamer

4. How do some people feel about you: Freaks

5. How do you feel about yourself: I Alone, Life Marches On

6. Describe your ex boyfriend / girlfriend: What Are We Fighting For?, Ghost,

7. Describe wanted/current boyfriend / girlfriend/ spouse: They Stood Up For Love, We Walk In The Dream, Dance With You

8. Describe where you want to be: Run To The Water, Where Fishes Go, Heaven

9. Describe how you live: Life Marches On, Turn My Head, Selling The Drama

10. Describe how you love: All Over You, Like I Do

11. What would you ask for if you had just one wish: Bring The People Together

12. Share a few words of Wisdom: What Are We Fighting For?

13. Now say goodbye: Run Away

Finally!

2006-05-08T16:59:15Z

We finally have our entire wedding party in place-- The final two were my cousin's kids and I asked them over the weekend. Yay!
Other than that, I haven't really done much for the wedding lately. This is finals week for me, so after it's over, I will have more time to devote to making the Save The Dates and all that stuff.
We need to start planning our get-together we're going to have for the wedding party, too. Quite a few of them have never met, so it should be interesting! That's all I really have for now. :)

x-posted

My done list!

2006-04-03T18:59:23Z

I liked Euro-Kates' idea of listing all of the things she has accomplished thus far, so I thought I would make one of my own. Since I haven't really accomplished anything else in my life lately, I need to do something to make myself feel better about that. :)

1. Have have date decided upon (March 17th, 2007)
2. Have church/pastor reserved. (We start our prep classes in June)
3. Have reception site booked
4. Have photographer booked
4b. Have appointment with said photographer for engagement pictures.
5. Have DJ booked
6. Have caterer lined up (my aunt)
7. Have hairdresser lined up (my cousin)
8. Have videography pretty much set (his church and my dad will both take part in that)
9. Have picked out some flowers for the bouquets (Bells of Ireland, Stephanotis, possibly Daisies)
10. Have baker decided upon for cake, but no contract yet
11. Have Save The Dates started
12. Have almost all of the wedding party asked (all but one bridesmaid, one flower girl and the flower girls' escort)
13. Have some ideas for bridesmaids dresses
14. Have TONS of decorations/favor items
15. Have groomsmen's gifts (Yes, ALREADY! He was on the ball with that. :))

This probably isn't complete, but it's all I could think of right now. Not bad for still having more than 11 months to go, eh? :)

Kind of perfect, don't you think? :)

2006-04-03T17:04:37Z

You Belong in Dublin

Friendly and down to earth, you want to enjoy Europe without snobbery or pretensions.
You're the perfect person to go wild on a pub crawl... or enjoy a quiet bike ride through the old part of town.

What European City Do You Belong In?

Time to get into shape

2006-03-24T03:48:40Z

Matt's mom has offered to pay for a 1-year membership for me to go to the YWCA with her and my fsil.. I think it's a great opportunity for me to do what I've been meaning to do for a long time-- first, I will have someone to go with, which will make it easier, and second, since it won't be my money, I will feel more obligated to go, so I don't feel bad for wasting her money. I only have about 3 months until the engagement pictures, and I'd like to look a little better by then, so yay!
I've also decided to continue to look for dresses. I put a down-payment on a dress about a year and a half ago (a whole $13) but I haven't put anything on it since, and I'm starting to re-think it. I just don't want to miss out on the whole "dress shopping" experience with my mom and bridesmaids (I was with my fsil when she was looking for dresses when I found the one I put the money on, I was bored so I was trying some dresses on, too) Besides, I feel sort of like I've lost the connection with that dress, so we'll see what happens. If I don't find anything else, at least I will have that one if I want it, so there won't be as much stress.
Oh yeah, I got my hair cut and colored today, too. I like it! It hadn't been cut in over a YEAR, so it REALLY REALLY needed it! Plus, my cousin does my hair, and I asked her tonight to do the wedding party's hair, and she said she would. Yippy!
Well, that's about all I have for now...

This is actually pretty accurate, I think!

2006-03-23T00:11:58Z

You're 55% Irish

You're very Irish, and most likely from Ireland.
(And if you're not, you should be!)

How Irish Are You?

Save The Dates

2006-03-22T23:41:28Z

I really want to make my own save the date cards to send out, but I'm struggling for original ideas that will let my guests know that they came straight from me. I was something fun and funky. I've looked on the web to get some inspiration, but I haven't had any luck. :( Any ideas or suggestions?

This is me...

2006-03-21T22:35:45Z

Name: Kasey
LJ Username: bridetobe_317
Age: 23
Location: Franklin, Pennsylvania
Fiance's Name: Matt
Fiance's LJ Username?: N/A
Fiance's Age: 22
How did you and your fiance meet?: At college
How long have you been together?: 2 1/2 years
What was the proposal like?: Sweet. He took me to the place where we first said "I love you" and got down on one knee in the snow. It all happened 12 days before he left for Iraq.
Who did you tell the news to first: He asked my dad before he proposed, so my parents knew it was coming, but his dad was the first that was told after it actually happened.
Have you started to plan your wedding yet?: Yep. :)
Do you have your own personal wedding web site?: www.theknot.com/ourwedding/kaseymcclintock&mattshiley
How many people are you going to have/would you like to have?: Well, we have over 400 on the guest list right now, but that will be cut in half.
Wedding Theme: St. Patty's Day!
Wedding Colors: some sort of green and silver
Wedding Dress: It's being paid for at the moment. I found it a year and 1/2 ago.
Wedding Shoes: Not sure yet.. probably flip flops. :)
Wedding Jewelry: ...
Something Old: the mammoth bone necklace that my parents got me in Alaska. Now THAT'S old! haha
Something New: I don't know yet.
Something Borrowed: Good question!
Something Blue: No clue....
Location of Wedding Ceremony: His church
Location of Wedding Reception: A local fire hall
Will there be any religious or cultural traditions incorperated into your wedding?: Nothing specific. We want a short ceremony and a long reception!
How many people are in your wedding party?:4 on each side, not including 2 flower girls and their escort.
Date of Wedding: March 17, 2007

Smooth sailing so far

2006-03-21T22:05:42Z

I have been really planning my wedding now for about a month. We had a few major breakthroughs over the past few days. With 11 months and some odd days to go before the big day, we already have the venue, the officiant, reception site, DJ, photographer, videographer and my dress. Plus, we have plenty of decorations, thanks to after holiday sales this year. :) I think his mother is more excited than anyone about the planning process. She's sort of taken on the role of unofficial wedding planner. I'm ok with that. She is giving me the final say, and I don't have to make any of the calls. The only problem I have really run into so far is in my decision making about my bridesmaids. My fiance only wants 4 (maximum) on each side. I have 3 definites, and two that I can't decide upon. One of them I have known longer, but we rarely ever see each other or talk, however, I think she would get along well with everyone. The other has been a closer friend to me, but we have sort of lost our closeness over the past few years. I think she would be more upset not to be in the wedding, but I know that she doesn't like one of my other bridesmaids, and I'm afraid that could cause some trouble. Any suggestions out there?